Safe Sex is Better Sex

Some sexually transmitted diseases can be cured, but others, such as HIV, genital herpes, and human papillomavirus (HPV -- which can cause genital warts), can not be cured, making safer sex quite an attractive option.

Safe sex became popular in the 1980s and 1990s with the onset of the AIDS/HIV epidemic.  As HIV can only enter the body by direct contact with blood or fluids, using a membrane such as a condom is one sure way to reduce the risk of transmission.

But all condoms are not created equal.  Latex condoms are recommended, usually lubricated.  Natural lambskin condoms are on the market, and though they work well for birth control, the pores are larger, and thus they do not stop the transmission of HIV or STDs.  Some people are allergic to latex, however, so other products have been developed, such as polyurethane condoms. 

Lubricants range in quality and composition, but always use a water-based lubricant, as oil weakens latex, sometimes to the breaking point.  Also, dry condoms break much easier.

To protect yourself completely from the transmission of bodily fluids, condoms are recommended even during oral sex, as the transmission of semen from penis to mouth could open the door to STD or HIV infection.  There are non-lubricated or flavored condoms for this.

The simplest ways to implement safer sex practice all involve personal responsibility and common sense.

• Avoid sex without protection.
• Have sex with only one partner at a time.  Multiple partners increase the risk exponentially.
• Avoid sex if you show symptoms of an STD or are being treated for one.
• Watch for signs of STDs, such as:
• Sores
• Redness
• Unusual discharge
• Growths in the genital area
• Pain while urinating

Be aware also of cuts, sores and any broken skin that could serve as a gateway for the introduction of an STD into you or your partner’s system.  Rough sex also increases the chances of transmission, for exactly this reason. 

Kissing is deemed safe when there are no open cuts or sores in the mouth, and transmission through saliva, though possible, is improbable.  With digital sex (fingering), totally safe sex would include using gloves or fingers cots (like little condoms for the fingers) to reduce risk of exposure to your partner’s secretions.  With oral-anal contact (rimming), the risk is much higher, not only from STDs but from intestinal bacteria as well.  Dental dams are recommended, but you can also make one by cutting a condom or a latex glove.

In the long run, talking with your partner about sexual and medical history before having sex is the best way to ensure mutual trust and optimal health.  Decide on your safe sex practices beforehand, and make sure that you and your partner get tested before commencing your sexual relationship.  Sometimes it takes HIV 6 months to show up in the bloodstream, so get tested again after the 6 months expires.  Do the same when changing partners or entering into a new sexual relationship.